Sorry for multiple posts, I don't want to give too much away in case she comes and finds this place.
We have two young children and we are in the same house, still staying in same bed, doing normal daily activities like dinner together as family both in and out, doing family stuff, all that. She admitted to EA which turned to a kiss (one time).
Had one counseling session, she said she has stopped contact with the OM (but admitted she still wants him as a friend in the long run). We are also seeing counselors each of us on our own (at least she said she was).
Things are WAY too delicate to have more discussions right now. I've beat the dead horse and made some mistakes in my reactions and communication. So I am totally laying off. Going dark is a good way to put it. Disconnecting, moving on, and acting as if she is not in the picture, but still being polite, but not too available. Harder with the kids.
She said she wants a separation, then when I blew up, she said she really was just done, wanted her freedom.
