Honey, I need to ask you something. And I need for you think about it from my perspective so we can put it to rest when we talk again later.
You and your boss work pretty closely together, under some stressful circumstances, and are in contact just about every day. I know you don't want me to question your relationship with him or to act like I am jealous and, TRUST ME, I don't want to feel that way either. But some of his behaviors strike me as odd for a superviser and it's pretty clear that he is at least a little bit attracted to you.
This is not an issue of trusting you. I know you'd never intentionally hurt me, or our marriage. But I've learned the hard way that we don't really control our feelings - it's sometimes too easy for one thing to lead to another and spark intense feelings where we never intended them, especially when we work closely with someone.
Why am I bringing this up? Because it worries me more than it should. It prevents me from being the man I want to be and the husband you deserve.
Before you react, please remember, you have all the details. You know exactly what occurs and how you feel about it. You'd know if it's nothing. I don't. I can only guess, based on the little bit I see. So while you can be secure that things are how you'd like them to be, I can't always be that way. If things were reversed - I'd want to know how you felt so I could reassure you or make changes in what I was doing.
I'm being honest with you. Now I really need you to be honest with me.
Is there some underlying attraction between you?
Do you have this under control?
Do you set whatever boundaries are necassary to protect your heart, and mine?
I really need your complete honesty, yes even if it hurts. Especially if it hurts. That's the only way we can move forward.
