harrier, you are right in that I think there are some expectations by NOT having expectations but it doesn't bother me like it did in the past.
I guess this whole short timeline has really made our sitch extremely unique in that we are moving a couple of thousand miles away from my main work. That just adds to my stress which adds to the R's.
We are definitely going to MC. We were doing it here and then, mostly because of the expenses, we went separately. She has some issues to work on herself before we can work on ours.
for the most part, I have been taking the pressure off the W for the R. I can see that she's doing a ton of work and that it is hard. Our convo yesterday was very difficult for me but I think it is a huge step that will pay off down the road.
Right now, we're just working on moving. Everything else will happen after that.
I do look at your sitch for inspiration, though. I see what you had to go through and am preparing myself for that same road.
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE