Ok first, try to stick to one thread. It makes it easier for us to follow you...
Next, I have seen this on a few of the new threads and will try to address it here and hopefully others will read it as well...
LRT...Last Resort Technique...
Is a very confusing idea. The easiest way to explain it is, it is an ultimatium.
One that you should be prepared to live with the consequences of either way and one that you should not give, if you are not willing or able to follow through with it. Because if you don't follow through, you will lose all credibility.
What you really are trying to do right now is go dim or dark. Which means to have minimal or no contact.
This process, gives the WAS time and space to hopefully see what exactly it is they are asking for by leaving or wanting to leave.
While you do this, you should also be doing things for yourself, changing things about yourself and your life that you want to be different.
Become a better person and a better option for your S and yourself.
I am sorry you find yourself here.
As you continue to post, you will find a good support system.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
