Hi Hap. Sorry to read your story. It's very familiar. My WAW and your WAH could be the same person. But that's a pattern, the no eye contact, the "coldness" etc.
Just remember, even if you accept half the blame for a failing R, when it comes to practical responsibility: it's not you, it's him. The LBS may have contributed to the sitch, but they are usually not the ones who break up a family or rend asunder a M.
Time to take care of you Hap, because DBing is not a fix it formula and there are no guarantees, except that you can be happy in the future no matter how it turns out.
I DB'ed for four months (still am) but that did not prevent my WAW from filing for D. I have changed and am moving foreward. I'll be happy when she's gone, I'll be happy if she returns, but only if she's changed.
Ask yourself, do you want the same H who is treating you like dirt, or a new changed H or even a new H altogether, and can you be happy on your own for a while? That's what DBing is for - YOU.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
