My old thread is under "Plese help: tell if I'm crazy or not".
I need to have a difficult conversation with W later this week about her relationship with her boss. We've had a few over the past years and she reacted very strongly - accussing me of being weak, jealous, and told me to "act like a man".
Been working the DB principles and yep, they work. If I go on like this doesn't bother me W is happy with me and affectionate. However, the following things are hard to ignore:
She and boss have very friendly, close conversations at bars, largely ignoring coworkers.
They send emails frequently - friendly and a few I and others here feel are inappropriate (...thinking of you, was one tag line).
Boss arranges many team building exercises and makes sure he is teamed with W.
W dresses UP when boss will be around - e.g., today: short sweater dress with boots bc she has meeting with boss all day. No one else at company dresses like this. Non-boss days are slacks or jeans.
W describes boss the friends and family as "super smart", "nice", "reall good", "funny".
Boss clearly like W and they travel together a few times a year.
Am I nuts to want to discuss this??? Women, help, how would you react to this?
I need to stand up and have a calm conversation, where W doesn't steamroll me. W doesn't do feelings, and HATES these tallks.
How can I find out if she has feelings for this man? An EA? A PA? Without the conversation going wrong AGAIN?
