Your H doesn't seem to be in any hurry to push this D along. It does give pause that he said in the meeting that one of the reasons you two hadn't talked is because he just drops the kids off and doesn't come in.
This time he does come in and never mentions one word about the issues that are on the table to be resolved before the D can be settled. Hmmmm...
BTW, you're welcome for the cake idea. It's one of my family's favorites. Hope you enjoyed it!