The other thing I've learned is to tell her how important she is as much as I can.
You know, I think that's almost as important for a W to hear as ILY. I know a lot of folks think actions are so much more important than words, but IDK. I agree that words are pretty significant. My H said hurtful things to me 15 years ago that I could never get over until we went through everything since last year. So I figure, if I'm going to give my H words to remember, I'd rather they be positive ones, than negative!
Hah, that makes me remember a time last fall (?) when my H and I were walking our dogs. We weren't talking much, just walking along. I'd been thinking to myself (and feeling a little hurt and indignant about it) that he'd never tell me I was important to him. And then I realized - hey, I never tell him how important he is to me either!! So I just turned to him and told him so. Well, the expression on his face was priceless. His jaw kind of dropped and he said something like 'well how nice to hear!! And you are important to me too!' and gave me a kiss. Now that's the kind of thing I want to be able to remember for the next 15 years!
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
