What a great post Bolt. I'm so glad you had such a successful talk.
Originally Posted By: Bolt
I said I never wanted to hurt her like that. Never felt like that, never intended that. I then told her how important she was to me and always has been. I treasured her and am only now being able to express it.
You know, that's really helped my H and I discuss hurts - past and present, too - acknowledging the hurt and assuring the other that it wasn't what was intended. Really seems to soothe the hurt. And how wonderful you told her how important she is to you. That will take you both a long ways. Good work, be sure to let yourself feel proud of your accomplishment, even if a little pullback happens.
FMV - thanks for the encouraging words. It's nice to hear from a woman too. I know she liked it but I did it more for myself because I don't ever want to be that guy again. The other thing I've learned is to tell her how important she is as much as I can.
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE
