Need help...what am I doing wrong?

[lostmiss97]

Hi HAP. My EH still can barely make eye contact with me. I think it's because he feels bad and doesn't want to deal with it, but that's just my opinion. I don't think there's a certain amount of time for each DB technique. I definitely don't think you're going to know if something you're doing is working. It's not like he's going to walk up to you and say, oh you know how you're doing you're own thing, that's making me rethink my choices. I like to think of what they do in terms of children testing their boundaries. They push and push and push and see what happens. Sometimes they stop before they go too far and sometimes they push until the go right off the edge. Either way, they more we tell them not to or try to control what they're doing the more the push and the faster they go. Don't be discouraged. Keeping using your DB techniques... one day you won't be acting as if, you'll really feel good about yourself.