What a great post Bolt. I'm so glad you had such a successful talk.
Originally Posted By: Bolt

I said I never wanted to hurt her like that. Never felt like that, never intended that. I then told her how important she was to me and always has been. I treasured her and am only now being able to express it.

You know, that's really helped my H and I discuss hurts - past and present, too - acknowledging the hurt and assuring the other that it wasn't what was intended. Really seems to soothe the hurt. And how wonderful you told her how important she is to you. That will take you both a long ways. Good work, be sure to let yourself feel proud of your accomplishment, even if a little pullback happens.

I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.