Paper, I am no more qualified than 9. He is right you have to do what works and what works for me may not work for you. I know this is not the answer you wanted. One of the vets here has doing what works in their sig line.
Please remember these are not techniques that will magically win your S back. These are techniques to improve yourself and help you deal with your sitch. Doing so may favorably impact your sitch and bust the sitch you find yourself in. There are enough success stories on this board to give me hope. Don’t loose faith in the techniques but realize they are for you. There is no magic bullet.
JMO but some of what you are describing seems like pursuing.
Originally Posted By: Paper
When I plan a family activity for Sunday with kids do I include her, tell her about it, get her input,
Again JMO, but I’d plan it, tell her about it as if I didn’t care if she was present or not, then execute it. If she shows up great, if not she can hear about the good time had by all without her.
I went looking for the "Drop the rope analogy". I thought I had saved it as a piece of wisdom. Can someone repost it?
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
