Paper, there are no easy answers here. What you have to determine is what works for your wife. Each case is different.

I have the most success when I totally let go of the rope and she thinks she is losing me. Trouble is , when that happens and she makes advances , I cave and want to talk R talk.

As i said , there are no clear cut blueprints for this. For the most part, they have to see the consequences of their actions and what life would be like without you in it. HOw long this goes on for is undetermined.

There are others way more qualified to give you support. I am just filling in for the most part as I know weekends are slow for some reason.

All the best.

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BombDec.19/09
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Mental HospNov/10
moved out Nov/10
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