Been off the board for several days trying to GAL or at least improve my mood. Looks like I have some catching up to do. I don’t know if I can offer a perspective or not. Know that I am reading and I am here going through the sh*t too.
Journaling: Got a call from one of the SILs Friday. She asked if I’d like to come to dinner. This is the SIL that told W she should work on the M and try MC before making any decision to D. As I went to her house I began to get my hopes up, stupid, stupid, I know.
Turns out she and her BF are accompanying one of the nieces to a spring break location for the week. She wanted to know if I’d do a couple of repairs to the house and keep an eye on her 17yr old son while she was ka-noodling with her BF. Ahhhh no. I drive by twice a day so if I see a fire or forty cars parked I’ll stop for the nephew’s safety.
Our D came by to vent about her moms behavior. One of the coping mechanisms she has read about using for the families of transgender people is to hold a wake or funeral for the person/personality that this person was. The idea being to treat the old personality as having died to accept the new personality. She is considering using this to try to accept the person she sees her mom becoming. I have little contact with W. Yeah, she is fogged in and acting strange, sometimes like a teenager, but I don’t know if this idea is wise. I told our D I did not plan on participating. I am not ready to bury W yet. Maybe this is something to consider if/when I am done.
I spoke to W twice this weekend. On Sat she called my cell. She was using her sing song, giddy, I’m so happy to speak with you voice, typically reserved for clients and family members she doesn’t want to speak to. She was checking to see if I had setup an appointment for the taxes. She seems genuinely surprised it was accomplished and I was picking up the paperwork. I was business like, almost brusque.
Today I left her a VM, telling her I had documents for her to sign and we needed to discuss when that would be convenient. She called later.
Call me Daniel; we’re meeting in the lions den next Wednesday. She asked if I could meet her at her Aunt’s house. I’m not sure how I feel about that just yet. I don’t remember Sun Tzu ever recommending entering the enemies stronghold. A truly confident man will walk in; take care of business and leave.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
