Hey Bolt. Two thoughts. First, seems to me like you're already working on the R, so don't worry that you're not. The communicating when things are bothering you, the nuzzles cuddles and little touches and kisses, that's ALL working on the R.
Second, as far as the talking goes, I've always found it easiest to get really clear exactly what I want to talk about, before I approach my H with it. It's when I'm not really clear what I want to say, or what I'm needing to hear his feedback on, that I begin wondering 'how'.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
