I Like Mine With Butter...please!

[courageous wife]

Thanks GAG...you are right...DBing isn't really about H coming home anymore...it really is about keeping a good relationship going.

So, wanted to journal what happened today...

H did come in when he brought the kids in...I said "hi, I was hoping you'd come in so you could take a look at Sam's foot" and he said the kids had told him that Sam was limping. He looked him over and couldn't see anything but said to keep an eye on him. I mentioned that I didn't know when I'd have time to take him to the vet if needed as this week was pretty full. He didn't offer but if it gets worse I may call and ask if he would take him...I think he would...the pets have always been important to him. He did play with them and pet them longer today but I am sure it is because he was here longer.

I asked him if he'd seen the kids report cards (they were with his mail). He said he noticed them but didn't really look so that means he did know he had mail so will assume he forgot to take it!

He said he took D's bike and worked on it, wasn't shifting correctly and this brought up that they had gone to arenacross last night. SS called him and asked if wanted to go. SS already had tickets so they ended up not sitting together. I was very excited for the kids and asked lots of questions about it. H mentioned how expensive it was to go. The kids told me later that OW went too. Sigh....so now SS has officially met her.

D12 opened her little big mouth and showed H the pill holder I bought and all the pills I have to take now...he asked why I was taking them...I made it sound like no big deal...calcum, Vit D to prevent bone loss due the the cancer drug I take...didn't tell him that I just found out I have the beginnings of ostoeporosis in my lower back. He then mentioned how many pills he is taking and the very expensive one he had hoped to quit taking but the Dr wants him on it for another year.

Then, D12 blabbed again that we can't listen to music channels anymore on TV and H asked if we shut off the dish and I said yes, just this week.

He looked thru his mail and said something about a stack of unpaid bills at home and it felt like an opportunity to bring up the Dave Ramsey class I was taking...he seemed interested and asked questions about it.

I had a chocolate cake baking in the oven when they got home (thankyou SA for that suggestion!). When the timer went off, I thought of GAG and made sure my behind was in full view as I bent over to take the cake out of the over!

There was absolutely no mention of the house or of our meeting. Overall, a very positive encounter...lots of eye contact, joking and actual back and forth conversation.

The negatives...OW went along and so now SS has met her. The reason why they called yesterday was because they stopped so Ashley could put on some different pants. Man, I was really really hoping that he had taken the kids without that "thing".