Another New Day

[islander]

The thing is country, she has to figure this out herself. I can't hold her hand for her. She knows I will do anything to work on our marriage, that I hav forgiven her, and that I will not hold this against her. She is content with being my friend, and going about her life. She told her mom she considers me a close or best friend. WTF, seriously. As I have said bf, you don't treat true friends like this.

I will not be her friend. I will not hold her hand as she walks away from me. These are her choices, and they have consequences. Losing me completely is that consequence. I am fully prepared to deal with the consequences of my decision, even if it is HARD to do

[ninelives]

Islander , you cant second guess yourself at this stage. Its a natural thing to do but where does it get you except keeps you in the pain zone.

Whats done is done. You have your present situation and you have to deal with that situation the best way you can.

Even if that means some day really moving on and letting her go for good.

Hardest thing you may ever have to do and God willing , this wont happen but to focus on the past and play the wouldof ,could of shouldof game will NOT let you HEAL.

Learn from your mistakes but dont dwell on them.

I wish I was as good as taking my own advice as I am at giving it.

9

[islander]

I wish I could take my own advice as well too. I want to call or text my W so bad right now. I am missing her so much. I don't think we have ever really went this long without some form of communication before. I guess I need to get used to it. Ugh!

[islander]

W just text me and wanted to know when we could get together to do taxes. I knew she would contact me soon. I have nit responded yet. Nit sure what I will tell her. Makes my heart race though

[♪CS♪]

Just respond to the question. Nothing more.

[ninelives]

So Islander, all that talk about recon is totally off the table?

Wow, makes you wonder what goes throught their heads. Dont get too excited about this though. She is only contacting you about taxes right?

Take time before you respond and be matter of fact. No, nice to hear from you talk or anything like that. Just address the what she presented, the taxes.

Okay, Be strong Dude.

9

[islander]

Recon is off the table for her!!!

I am not excited that she called, more like anxiety bc of what she did last week. I knew should would contact me any day now about bills and taxes. I am going to wait bf I respond so I can think more clearly. And I still may F it up.

[ninelives]

Good plan. Waiting although your heart is racing a mile a minute is always the best way to handle this.

NO relationship talk. That is very important right now. Stick to the basics. If it heads that way, recognize it early and tell her that you are not interested in talking about that right now.

I think that is the best course of action but I have been wrong so many times.

9

[islander]

Possible responses:

I will get back to you.

X day at x time.

Whenever you are ready to talk to me.

Well do them bf tax day.

Some of them are 2x4s, but I need to pray about this first.

[♪CS♪]

I would simply pick a time that works best for you.