Your meeting sounds productive. I'm glad for you. It sounds as though you will not need to have a formal court case (very expensive) in your situation. Once people start digging their heels in, the situation can spiral downward quickly. It sounds as though your H wasn't feeling like "digging in". You conducted yourself with grace and dignity once again. Another positive is that it sounds as though neither of your attorneys is wanting to escalate the situation and the judge wasn't antagonistic either. That helps tremendously!
Keep DB'ing CW. It will serve you well on all levels. If the worst case scenario occurs (and we all pray that it doesn't ---- hmmmmmm,.... a LS WOULD be an interesting outcome, wouldn't it?) and this does lead to a D, DB'ing will keep things calm and rational so that you can get a good settlement and minimize L's fees. Speaking from experience I can say that it is hard to DB during the D negotiations, but it does keep the door open for a new R down the road, especially since you have your beautiful children together.
