Thought I had it all figured out there for a minute.
"What is my purpose in communicating that she has my blessing, friendship and support?"
Wow.
Interestingly enough, I'm finding that in some ways I am actually in agreement with her choice. Or at least I was until I read your post.
A few minutes ago I could clearly see how it kind of made sense that she was leaving me to feel more true and whole and happy within herself.
That made some kind of sense to me because I felt it was very similar to my need go away and work all those times doing what I felt I needed for myself in order to be whole and happy within myself.
But know you have given me a completely different view. And it feels really strange because I'm almost afraid to even acknowledge it, but I'm starting to think the difference between me and her is, I never even considered leaving our marriage, breaking my promises to her, or totally abandoning her to get my needs fulfilled.
Granted it may very well have appeared to her that way, but for me the truth is the moment we got married I was committed to her for life.
Well now I'm confused again, thank you very much.
But that's a true thank you, True, because when I am confused I know it means I'm about to learn something new.
You think I should totally ignore her communication, refuse to agree to a co-petition for divorce, and let her serve me legally for divorce?
Here's my insecurity coming through now True, please don't leave me hangin' here. Tell me what you think I should do. Not that I am certain I will do it, I just really value your opinion and the opinions of other folks on this board.
Taking a hard line approach with my wife is definitely something I have considered, as opposed to "loving her the way she is asking to be loved" and acting solely on the belied that "if you love something set it free"
Hmmm. I wonder if their is some kind of unconscious fearful pattern or habit here that I could help her to be free of and still have her as my happily married wife...
My goodness this is hard!!!
I am being the possibility of:
1) Integrity 2) Loving myself completely. 3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.
