Punkin, Your reply was courteous and respectful and certainly didn't point any fingers. Of course, in his mind, he'll view it as something else.
As for coming by and picking up the items that you packed up for him...well, that's another story. He wanted to prove to you that he could come there at any time and take what he wanted. It's called "entitlement". It's the spoiled brat in them that comes out to play. "I'll show you that you can't put a lock on buildings and keep me out."
As for the garage door opener, can you change the code? Mine held on my opener for a while until I pulled the plug and he couldn't get in. I then had someone come in and show me how to change the code. It's their "key" to coming back.
Your h reminds me of my xh and the antics he pulled back when we, or should I say "I" was trying to get a SA in place.
Take some time and walk around your home and your buildings and really look around...you might have more items missing than you think. I'm very sorry you are going through this.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
