update on my sitch II

[what next?]

I wasn't trying to manipulate the moment. I didn't expect her to start crying as soon as I tried to apologize... when she did then I left so that it wouldn't look like I was taking advantage of her in a moment of weakness. I'm not sure how apologizing and trying to validate things that she had a problem with = me manipulating her.

I don't think that she will be "miserable without me." I think that she was miserable and blamed me for that out of proportion for what was actually my part in her unhappiness. I believe that after the dust settles she will find herself still unhappy. I don't know if she will come back to me or not but I am confident that her acting like everything is GREAT! now is just that, an act.

She did start to cry as soon as I asked her to send me things she thought I would be interested in. That does tell me something. It tells me that the emotion is very raw for her right now and she is not as perfect as she would like me to believe.

I am working on myself everyday... I can do that on my own. I come here to get help from people from an outside perspective.