"let me know if there is anything i can do for you" and left because i didn't want to seem like i was manipulating the moment.
You knew what you were doing. You were manipulating the moment.
"my wife did the standard "everything is great" act"
This shows you haven't learned anything so far. It's not an act. You've been waiting for her to "wake up", or are saying to yourself, "She'll be miserable without me, she'll see". But so far nothing has shown anything to the contrary.
What have you been doing with yourself? Stop concentrating on her life and think about yours.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.