a couple of things have happened in my sitch over the past week and i wanted to post to get some input from you guys...
last sunday i went to my (ex) wife's house to get some stuff out of the garage that was mine. one thing that i wanted to do while i was there was acknowledge something that i did in the past and apologize for it. that thing in this case was back in the day when my wife would forward me emails i would complain about getting "spam" and tell her to stop... obviously that was rude of me and the fact that she cared enough to think of me during the day and send me something she thought i would be interested in was not exactly a good reason to take a dump on her lol
so at the end of my visit i stopped and said "one thing that i wanted to say is that i am really sorry for all of the crap that i gave you about sending me forwards on email" she smiled and nodded. then i said, "so would appreciate it that if you see something you think i would be interested in, if you would, send it to me" ...when i said this she instantly teared up and was about to really cry so i just said "let me know if there is anything i can do for you" and left because i didn't want to seem like i was manipulating the moment.
then today my wife had lunch with my sister. my wife invited her because it was my sister's birthday this week and my wife did the standard "everything is great" act and talked about her future (which had nothing to do with me). overall my sister was pretty pessimistic about my chances but i don't think that she understands the process that the WAW goes through. i still have hope and i think that the emotion that my wife showed on sunday means that everything isn't quite as perfect for her as she would lead everyone to believe.
my goal now is to keep contact going... she has been emailing me pretty much everyday (even though it's mostly logistical stuff about the divorce) but that stuff is about to be over so we'll see what happens next.
would appreciate anyone's thoughts... i'm trying real hard not to mind read but feel free to do so! lol
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