grr, your H seems to be reading the same guide book as my W. They actually have no idea what they want. My C told me that my w "clearly doesn't want to be married, but clearly doesn't want to be divorced." He also thinks she is much more in need of therapy than I.

Good luck, grr. You still have some tough sledding ahead, but you will do fine. I know you will!

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...