I played TT last night with XH. We switched nights at XH's request since he had plans on Wednesday. There was a second TT game in the room where we played, so it was noisy and not private and we didn't have a chance to chat as much during the game as we normally do.
I had purchased a little leprechaun hat and "wig" that I put on my cat. I took photos and showed these to XH. He laughed. At some point during the evening XH put on the little hat/wig and I took photos. I told him that I would send them to his business partner (which I did and copied XH ---- business partner replied this morning but XH did not). Then XH said, "Would you like a photo wearing the hat/wig?" So he took a couple photos of me in the hat/wig.
I played poorly because I am in the process of trying to change my game. Blech!!!! It's frustrating, but there were some good exchanges and I think XH can see a glimmer of the level of play that may be possible between us in the future. There were some pretty funny volleys that we both laughed about...........At one point I took Jody's advice and asked XH "So what are you planning to do in Mexico? Swim with the dolphins? Check out the ruins? Lay on the beach?" XH said "I just plan to relax" and wouldn't elaborate further. He looked tired as he said that, so I validated him by saying "You deserve to take a break. You've been so busy taking care of your mother all this time. I hope that you have a good time". XH didn't look very excited about going to Mexico, so it makes me wonder WHY he isn't excited. XH dropped the bomb a few days after we returned from a lovely trip to the UK (he was very cranky on that trip), so he IS capable of going on a vacay with someone whom he intends to ditch right afterward.......and one week ago he made a comment about how going on a vacay with someone isn't necessarily the way the re-energize a R. He made the comment in reference to a colleague who is having M problems and is going on vacay with his W. At the time I thought he was referring to OUR pre-bomb vacay, but now I'm wondering if he was talking about the person he is going with to Mexico????? XH has asked me to watch/visit his mother while he is out of town and I told him I would be happy to do that. This is significant because it's the first time since the bomb that XH has asked me to do that, even though I've offered several times before. I'm thinking that I should send photos of his mother to XH when I visit to keep the thread going while he it on vacay.
I didn't suggest going out to eat after TT because I've learned from past experience that I need to plant that seed at least a few days before we get together. When we turned to hug each other before saying goodnight, XH leaned in to kiss me on the lips and I reciprocated. It was a sweet kiss, like our previous kisses (this was the 3rd in the last 3 months), but if he is dating anyone I don't think they would be happy to know that he was kissing his XW.........and now that the sweet kiss seems to be acceptable to him I would think that transitioning to a more passionate kiss would be easier when the moment is right.
