sweets, ditto on the first post PLEASE follow that advice closely. It is ILLEGAL for him not to be paying anything, from day one that you guys left he owes you big time! asap do the math, tell him what in child support he ought to pay and tell him you'll be expecting payment soon or you'll have to file child services. This is about the welfare of you and the KIDS, he is looking for himself, you lookout for the kids and your well being, do not let pain or emotion stop you from getting CS it is YOUR right right.
Yes, keep it all business, it's hard, I know I wanted to scream when we did the mediator thing, but you have to be cool headed. DO see a lawyer before you go to mediation, you must! I didn't retain on (no money), so I just went for an initial consultation, told her my story and she advised on what what best (now I that I see, she dropped the ball on retirement, being married for 10yrs I should've gotten some of it). Anywho, you must know before hand what is entitled to you. Before you signed anything at mediation (it will take a few meetings) take the paper to the same lawyer, have her look it over before you sign.
Good luck, don't be afraid, you will do awesome, just fine, believe that you will. And what bunch of BS of him to say it was things you did that 'made' him do what he did... that's the coward's way out, to blame it on someone else... he was weak, he cure himself with someone else, it had nothing to do with you, with who you were, what you look like what you did, NOTHING, so don't let that leach pin the blame on you.
Hope all is going well, good luck!
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
