I will Survive.

[cat03]

Hi there, I remember you... I'm a mega lurker now, but, I agree with the post about treating him as a guest... put distance between you two, the more you do 'normal' 'family' things together, the more you tie yourself to him and your healing will delay and you'll just hurt more, hon, please trust me on this.

After a long time, after I healed from it all, I was able, only because the kids' grandma asked me, to come for Christmas and have dinner together... I came a bit later and didn't stay as long, I was able to do so because I didn't see him as anything else other than just someone else in the house.
But until all is behind you, I would def. cut down on times he comes and makes himself at home, he isn't your H anymore, he lost that privilege... right after exH left, he'd still come in my home without knocking the way he'd always do... until I gave him a bewildered 'what are you doing' look that he got the hint and knocked and didn't just left himself in.