What's the point of a 2x4 when you know in advance you shouldn't get off into a R but you CHOOSE to do it anyway. You were not forced into it! You knew exactly when the conversation made that curve and was headed in the R direction. And so, you traveled that worn out path again, and once again you feel like cr@p. How's that working for you?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!