It's Time To Rock; Part I

[MrBond]

While I understand how frustrating this is, see things from the OMW's perspective.

She has this H who runs around her back and pretty much has manipulated two women. When we were all first hit with the realization of our spouse's A's, we all "lost it" on some level.

She had probably gone through as much crap as we all have. You were lucky enough to discover DB to help. She might not have gotten any help or support on her end. So while she may not be acting in her right state of mind, a little compassion is in order.

Also, keep in mind that not all spouses of an A partner are "crazy". I have a number of friends who had the problem of infidelity come up and when they brought it up to the AP's spouse, they were thankful for the honesty.

Don't make blanket statements because it may not have worked in your sitch. Not everyone's the same.

And anyway, I usually advocate confronting the OP directly. Their spouses are going through as much pain and helplessness as we are. Why add to it.