Emails from my STXH....

[zengypsy]

Zen:

Sounds like he is up to the idea to file joint. I thought your response was well thought out and so was his.

If I was to draw a simple conclusion from that exchange i would say that he is moving away from anger and is starting to 'cool' off a little. I think the way you handle any exchanges with him is key and so far you are doing a good job of that.

This is simply logistics but none the less it is communication and I think that is good, Rome was not built in a day.

The most important thing is how you react to the exchanges if he feels comfortable when he reaches out he will reach out more. Remember he is far more detached than you are so as you go forward expect nothing from him. Treat every communication as your last and keep in mind that your goal is to allow him to hate the fact that he left you because you are the better option, only way to get to that point is to remain calm and focused

2, I greatly appreciate you taking the time to respond. I always appreciate your insight and guidance.

I really hope that your perception is correct. It would be nice if he were moving from the anger thing into finally cooling off a bit. Maybe that will help lift his fog and he can begin to see things more clearly now.

I do think he is open to the idea of filing joint. I hope it wasn't because he just didn't want to deal with it anymore and just get it done. I tried to present the facts as to why it would be better.

I will totally remember the goal and as of late I do my best to approach all my responses to him in a much less impulsive way.

Patience Zen, patience!