Honestly at the beginning of my sitch (mid Jan-11) when i came across this amazing website and the book, i really believed that I can turn the tide around.
We all do. Some of us make it and some of us don't. We have witnessed those that are on the cusp of making it so I do believe it works. In the end though it was always about yourself.
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Reality that wife has checked out forever
No one knows this for sure
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The only thing i pray to god is to keep the fire of love for my wife alive. I need that fire to exist just in case she changes her mind about us. I am so scared that it might die away one day and I might just move on never to look back at her again...
Love is a choice my friend. I am going on 5 months next monday. Are things different for my W. He!! yes. Do I feel that passion? Nope. Do I have a burning desire and miss her like a W? Nope.
I do love her. I will always love her. I have chosen to. That is why the dating and reconnecting is so important. When you have time and distance you do grow apart. You miss them in a different way. I miss her friendship. I miss her company. I am standing not because of some secret passion or fire I have for her. Perhaps that is gone. It can be re-kindled though and it will take time and effort on both our parts. I choose! Not her.
