Looking for some direction with respect to my wife's EA. 3 months ago I was able to confirm that my wife was having an EA with a co-worker. I told her that if she wanted to be with him, then she should go. She could not treat me like a roommate and carry on with him.
3 months have passed and she is still living at home etc. She has not indicated to me what the status of their relationship is. Just after I confronted her, she indicated that she cut off all communication with him. In monitoring the situation they are still communicating at work through emails etc and go for coffee together.
Two things are bothering me:
1) They are still communicating with each other. My expectation in this situation would be that they end all communication.
2) Not knowing the status of their relationship.
I know we are not suppose to raise the R discussion, but in this case I am not asking her to discuss our relationship. What I want is an update on what the two of them are up to. As long as she is living in our house and I am helping to support her financially, I think she does owe me an update etc. I am also curious as to whether she would be honest in her response given that I do know that they have been in contact.
I am prepared to tough this out as is, but am curious if anyone out there thinks that there would be an upside to raising this topic for discussion.
