I'm glad you are trying to tell yourself to pull back as soon as this is all over. But, you are so emotionally attached. You evaluate the hugs, etc. I see almost every LBH doing that before he detaches. You won't do that once you're not so focused on her and how it affects the R. You won't do it mainly b/c that will not be the center of your thoughts, your plans, or your future. She will not be the center of your desire the way she is right now.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
