I get you. I thought I was my H.'s very best friend and sexually exclusive friend and he was mine too. That's part of why we married. That's over from THEIR perspective. That's hard to come to terms with. Thing is though if you look at their behaviour, they weren't very good friends to us either. Betrayal, lies, uncommunicativeness etcetera. We're holding on to what was, not realising what is now. We have the ability to change that. We have the power to redefine ourselves and a future relationship with them. Focus now on being the best friend you can be to yourself. Once you do that, you can start a new friendship with your S. with a huge advantage...a history, a memory that love once did flourish and sustain you both, and a knowledge that it can be even better.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
