For me things have stabilized for now and we get along great. I'm really starting to feel like I have my marriage back (at least the start of it.) Case in point,last night we were watching the boys play. My wife come over and stands by my side and leans into me. I put my arm around her. It was a nice moment.
Also the other night when my W went to bed I initiated a hug and told her ILY. She respond ILY too. She also asked if I wanted to carpool today. I decided I wasn't going to ask her, but let her lead if she wanted to. She did.
I think from here we need to start building on what kind of marriage we want, what we expect and how to achieve it.
The next issue for us is physical intimacy...you know what I'm talking 'bout Willis. Okay it's been about 12 weeks since we last ML. All through out piecing, I've let my W take the lead on a lot of things. I don't know where she is on ML at all other than we aren't doing it or talking about doing it. I did notice my W is become slightly more flirty. I think this is a good next step for us.
Our MC mentioned that things might e okay enough for either of us to bring up the sex thing. Of course, my W said on the drive home, she'd rather me not talk about just let it happen.
I had plan to talk to her about it on Sat. night. Bascially, a "where are you on this? If you aren't ready that's my answer. I will wait patiently as long as it takes. I appreciate all the work you've done and sometimes it is just about pure animal lust w/o the emotions attached."
I would expect one of three response - let's go now, I'll think about it or I'm not ready.
but I decided that might not be the best tact wonder if I can just try to make a move on here and see if it can happens.
or just do nothing and wait for her to talk to me.
Also this morning we were talking about the fact that my W might have to work (1/day a week) close to where the OM offices are. She would work with OM's best friend who is also her mentor (this guy I don't' worry about at all). She was talking about it, then asked if it bother me a little. I said 'yes' but didn't want to bring it up as I trusted her. She thanked me for being honest.
Then, she looks me right in the eyes an says. "You have NOTHING to worry about. Okay, Nothing." I said I know. She again says. "You have nothing to worry about." then she said she could say it again. I just joked that she could text me if she wanted.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
