Ironman:

I am so impressed with FOBD, VS2d and 2, that nothing I say can top that or offer any other insight. They all said exactly what I would have said, what I've felt and where I've been.

Think about what 2 said....
"How can she do this to your family?" She isn't. She is doing this for herself because she sees this as her only option. She can create feelings she has lost, however it does not mean she can't get them back.
Only you can decide if/when she does will you still be there to work on M.

And I would just like to add to this and say I think this is applicable whether there is a D or not.


BITS

M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0
T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd)
WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved
Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10
Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11