I will debate with you anyday my friend. Matter of fact I kind of enjoyed it because sometimes that is the way I process things. Sometimes people back off thinking I am getting upset but I like the full frontal approach better.
I also need the encouragement.
Anger will fade it is one of those emotions that you just can't hold on to for very long. Time is the great physician.
My D also is my weakness and she can reduce me to tears in a single second or make me feel bouts of anger with my W. Most of the time I am good but sometimes I thank God she doesn't call.
Here is the point I tried to get across to you the other day.
Stop attaching your reactions or feelings to her actions or lack of. You do a pretty good job of GAL and that is great. D 1st YOU 2nd and everything else where it lands.
'How can she do this to your family?"
She isn't. She is doing this for herself because she sees this as her only option. She can create feelings she has lost, however it does not mean she can't get them back.
Only you can decide if/when she does will you still be there to work on M.
