I hear you, anything positive is better. I just hope that she comes around, because I need the physical contact with her (all of it) the intimacy, that bond that I know we used to have. My W is fairly open to us doing things as a family because then the focus is on the kids, and not on me and her. It was funny, when we went out for D7 birthday the other day she said she wasn't that hungry and thought maybe we could just share something - a big positive as far as I am concerned and it went well.
I'm sorry that your W has no interest in even the family dynamic, I hope that changes at sometimes because it helps you feel connected without having a real R with her. Hopefully in time it will change, especially if you just keep planning things occasionally and inviting her to come. I can't believe she'd want to miss those sitch's with the kids. I know for me and my W they are some of our happiest times.
I love my family, and the fact that it appears we will stay as a one unit is really good.
My W has been talking constantly about the future, a future that she "wants" that just happens to include me on the side (simply for financial reasons at this point) but I guess either way I'd be paying financially.
I'll really slowly try to build on us, and maybe moving towards the future we will become close again. She already said she wants me to be her "friend", but I don't want her to think I'm fien with only being friends.
The next few months will be key, I need to stay calm and not get to excited or read too much into things - just be happy the we are still together.
SIC
Me - 34 W - 33 M - 8 years T - 15 years D7, D5, D2 Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY" W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011
