Separated for 11 weeks (long)...

[Very Confused]

I have a feeling that I am going to go through much of what you have very soon. My H is moving out on April 2nd. He dropped the ILYBNILWY bomb on 1/25. He has been adamant that the reason he is leaving me is because he is unhappy with our marriage, yet cannot cite exact reasons why he is unhappy with me. He just says that the fact that he is no longer "in love" with me is a problem and he needs to do some soul searching alone.

He still wants to text, talk once per week, and keep keys to my apartment to visit our cat once weekly. I gained a lot of strength from your posts as I can relate to a lot of it. I had gained a lot of weight after getting married 3 years ago and have lost 65 lbs since last summer and it fixed NOTHING!! I really thought that our lack of sex was because of my weight, and even after reaching my goal, he told me that he no longer looks at me in that way and is not attracted to me. As you said, I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want or love me. Easier said than done, I know.

I am new to all of this, so I don't have much advice to give. However, I would like to thank you for sharing your words of wisdom and giving me strength for what I know is going to be a very difficult time for me. Please keep the updates coming! I would love to continue following your sitch.