S9 wanted to go to Meemas house tonightfr a visit. So i sentmy wife atext last night asking her to drop him off after her visit with the kids. She didnt respond until this morning. Here is my day f conversations.
W: Sorry i havent gotten back 2 you I have had a headache and just realized my phone was dead. I will take evan to moms.
M: k, well evan is askng me to take him to moms, he doesnt wnt to go to ur place. I told him he has all day to think about it.
w: Well D7 told us both that S9 doesnt like OM and is only nice 2 him because he has 2 be, sams the only person my dad hates. And after not being trusted with D7, OM wants me 2 goback 2 having my visits elsewhere so i can see all my kids.
M: what am I supposed to say to that? I am not, and I mean not saying OM wouldhave done anything inappropriate, but i do not trust him, i know to much and D7 well being is not an issue i will take a risk on. I will never speak nice of OM, I will not sugar coat it to my kids. i dont have to. OM has done nothing for this famly. So if thats how evan feels, then i will talk to him again. As for OM,well tell him to suck it up, he chose to have an affair with a married women with 4 kids, he chose to let you live at his house, so this is the territory he chose o be in. next time he migt choose someone without kids and a 230lb gorilla of a husband.
W: you only know what you were told by your lawyer and your investigators. and its not because he does not want the kids here its because he wants me 2 see them and he knows they dont come because of him.
M: yup, whatever u need to tell urself to make u believe it. the kids dont go there cause, they are sick of sleeping on the floor, being in a small house where they are afraid to be themselves and trying to like someone who helped rip their lives apart and took th one person they always thought they would have around them, away. I really dont want to fight about this. even if you have your visits elsewhere, i cant guarantee they will go. W u cannot put this on me,and ifyou expect me to except OM, or are hoping i ever will and that's why your being nice to me, then lets stop this righ now. that will never happen, i am about keeping my family together and not tearing it apart.
W: welll why are you being nice to me? for the family?
M: I am being nice to you because I miss you, cause i never had secrets from you, cause i told you everything, and i miss that. I miss my best frien. thats why i am beingnice. its not for anyone else, its for that reason. its not for the kids, or the family, its for me.
W: None of this has to do with why i am being nice to you, i want us to get along for us and for no other reason.
M: Well, i will have another talk with S9 for you.
W: you haveuncovered all this about OM past, why wont you or your lawyer share them with me? I am not fighting about this, i just would like to know what you do.
M: W, i will not get into a slam fest about OM with you. You have made it clear you dont believe my sources, you dont trust L (lawyer) and what they have tosay. all that is important is that this man repeated his pattern and interfered with a marriage. He contributed to te break up of a family and now 4 kids dont see their mom every day. Thats all i really need to know. Thats all that needs to be said. You made yor decision a year ago, it didnt matter to you then, so it shouldnt matter to you now.
W: I would like to know
M: I have spent all the time i want to waste talking about OM. He is whoever you want him to be. Nothing i say or do will changethat. I am moving on, with or withut you.
W: I get that you have moved on, I see that. I will figure out my visitation situation on my own.
M: We are not even talking onthe same page, i meant that i was moving past the OM conversation. Until you put me befoe a judge for a divorce, you are still my wife and you will always be welcome.
W: Can I take sophie again with the kids tonight?
M: Yes you can take her
W: thankyou
so I wasnt home when she dropped off the 2 kids that went with her, but the kids called me, and said mom was very stressed out and very upset about something. I fgured its her court date next week. so i sent this text.
M: I am going o regret this im sure. Would you like me to drop sophie off t u tomorrow fo the weekend?
W: That woul be awesome, what time? Why the change of heart?
M: When i get there, i am worred aboutyou and i know you are stressed, andnext to walking with me, this is the best i can do. o i am trying to let you have something to relieve your stress.
W: Thank you verymuch for caring. I appreciate it.
So once again, sorry for the long post, but i wanted to put it word for word on here, so i can get some opinions an idea about this sitution. I know i screwed up, but im only human
