WAW tearing up our family part II

[FellOnBlackDays]

Iron,
Do what you can to keep your cool, brother. Let me give you a little advice from someone that is a bit further down the road that no one ever wants to travel. First, trying to figure out her actions will drive you insane, no doubt. I have had to work very hard to stop myself from doing the same thing. WAS's are screwed up individuals who have no back up plan. Right now, her plan could be falling apart and she has no idea what she is doing. Who knows? But there is one thing I do know... trying to figure it out will make you more angry and cause more issues.
Second, the anger will fade, I promise you. About six weeks ago, my anger started to fade and I think you have noticed that in my posts. I no longer think about revenge or how much I hate her for leaving. When the anger fades, you will get some clarity that you will need to continue. My clarity hit me like a ton of bricks. It was the day I realized that she had to leave because I was a real S.O.B. to be married to....

Don't worry, buddy. That anger will pass. It has to or you will end up one screwed up individual. Look, for right now, don't fight it. Write letters to yourself and hide them. Come here and vent. Let yourself experience the anger. It is OK. If you don't it will haunt you longer than it must. Just make sure that you don't let that anger get anywhere near your daughter or your wife. I know, it keeps you warm. For nights after my w left, my anger kept me company. Let it do it's job for now. But, be on the lookout for the day when that anger is not so appealing... it will come, I promise you, my friend.

Hang in there!

FOBD