You need to start checking on what she is doing. I was in denial for along time to about my wife and an OM. There were a number of signs along the way that I chose to ignore or simply did not want to believe. Never in my entire life did I ever think that my wife would even consider having an affair, or be the type of person that would have one.
Once I started checking up on emails and texting, things starting to become more suspicous. Cryptic emails between my wife and OM who is a co-worker began popping up on her BB. One day the OM got careless and sent her an email from out of town stating how much he missed her. She then responded saying that she felt the same way. BUSTED!
I then confronted my wife who confessed to an EA but stated no PA took place. I don't believe her, but at least I was able to get her to confess to the EA. Never confront until you ahve evidence and never expalin where you got the evidence from.
Although we have not made much progress relationship wise, I think I am in a much better position having brought the EA out into the open. I continue to monitor the situation to confirm for my own piece of mind.
