Dont know how to check those things about and BTW, I aske my wife at least 30 times if she was having an affair because my friends and this board was suggesting she was and she got really mad and offended.
She even swore on our childrens lives. They are just words in the end. Even when I caught her on her blackberry she denied that it was a PA and said it was just emotional. My point, Cheaters lie , period.
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Bringing it up in my opinion does no good. She will lie. You have to find out. People told me she will eventually slip up and she did. She passed out after a Halloween party with her blackberry on and there were countless texts from scumbag DJ at our local bar.
BINGO
But ask people how to do your homework, I just got lucky. If you call it that.
But i will almsot guarantee you that asking her point blank is pointless.
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Ask others for their opinion. I believe that no stone should be untouched because of the stakes.
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You need to start checking on what she is doing. I was in denial for along time to about my wife and an OM. There were a number of signs along the way that I chose to ignore or simply did not want to believe. Never in my entire life did I ever think that my wife would even consider having an affair, or be the type of person that would have one.
Once I started checking up on emails and texting, things starting to become more suspicous. Cryptic emails between my wife and OM who is a co-worker began popping up on her BB. One day the OM got careless and sent her an email from out of town stating how much he missed her. She then responded saying that she felt the same way. BUSTED!
I then confronted my wife who confessed to an EA but stated no PA took place. I don't believe her, but at least I was able to get her to confess to the EA. Never confront until you ahve evidence and never expalin where you got the evidence from.
Although we have not made much progress relationship wise, I think I am in a much better position having brought the EA out into the open. I continue to monitor the situation to confirm for my own piece of mind.
I found this online and removed the ones that did not apply, I still have 20 that make me wonder.
Signs of a Cheating Spouse: 2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.) 3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you. 4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it. 6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program. 10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID. 11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate. 12) He becomes "accusatory," asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt. 16) The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding ring. 20) He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you. 25) Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music. 27) Has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance. 28) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially after you have gone to bed. 34) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy" and easily moved to anger. 35) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice. 36) He/she loses attention in the activities in the home. 37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right. 38) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home. 40) She has a "glow" about her. 41) Atypical erratic behavior. 46) The telltale sign of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question in the first place.
