I just had a wonderful session with Jody. I will try to post about it in the next couple days. At least some of the points could apply to you as well. Wish I could have you over to my house to chat........
I may be wrong, but your post makes it sound as though you and your H may be in the process of laying the foundation for moving to a new and deeper level in your R..........possibly a level that you haven't been to before???????? It sounds as though you are having trust issues right now and that is VERY understandable. The OW is present now,........ but that doesn't mean she will be present 1 week, 2 weeks, or 3 weeks from now. You have set a boundary. That is a healthy thing to do if you want your R with H to have a firm foundation in the future. When you communicate with H in the future, please do so in a kind manner and give yourself a minimum of 24-48 hours before making significant moves in your R with H so that you are not reacting from an emotional place.
When you told H you wouldn't contact HIM, did you leave it open for him to contact YOU? How did H react when you told him that?
This is a very important time in this process for both of you. You have been very patient for so long..........Can you be patient awhile longer? If you knew that by being patient you might have the M and life you have been working so hard for, could you be patient a bit longer?
