As I was visiting with Mr. GAG I felt as though the conversation just wasn’t fun and lacked the chemistry we’ve always had……but you are right, that I can’t really compare our first “dates” now with our first dates years ago, because even inane conversation can be interesting with someone new. In our previous R we didn’t talk much about feelings and values because we were busy doing.
I agree with this. In the beginning the chemistry is built as your learn more and more about your date and you establish your similarities and differences and you begin to determine the potential of each other for future. In our cases, this 'fun' part has occurred years before and the suitability assessment phase has already been covered. This means that there's bound to be more meaningful conversations based on shared family and friends, familiar routines and experiences. And that could also answer your observation on the lack of $exual chemistry. You are busy assessing and analysing changes and responses so that it almost becomes a business transaction and the spontaneity is diminished.
