It is my opinion, not necessarily agreed-upon by my spouse (or even considered) that our issues have a heavy MLC leaning. We have been actively fighting about our relationship for about 1 1/2yrs now - since the last time that he seriously stated that he wanted a divorce. The first time was shortly after our first daughter was born. His father died a couple of years ago - and he turned 40 at the same time. Comments like - "I don't know if I want to spend the rest of my life like this" and others - lead to partial MLC "diagnosis". Problem is, a lot of what he's complaining about he is correct and I can validate his anger and upset about interfering family (mine) most likely enmeshed situation - I am just (we are just) starting to research and discover this. I have made many changes that he insisted needed to be made - happily as I agreed with most of them. He invalidates changes and continues to list yet more changes that he cannot live without - starting to be issues that I cannot change and have no control over. Guess he sees that issues I can control I have and will. We have two wonderful children (8/10) and I did not sign on for this to be a single mom. They deserve better and so do both my H and I.
