Thanks gentlemen. About to walk over to get W and head home. I'm in a much better place. I will have this conversation with her, but not now.
Harrier, I read something this afternoon I wish I could paste here - but I don't want to violate any copyrights. Taoism appeals to my personality sometimes - I don't know why - and there is a story about potatoes and forgiveness in The Tao of Daily Life Derek Lin, Chapter 12 Forgiveness.
My summary of the old story he discusses: Teacher tells student to carve the name of people who have wronged him on potatoes, then carry them around on his back for a week in a sack. Easy at first, the sack seems to get heavier, then starts to reek. After a week, the teacher asks what the sstudent has learned and he points out, obviously: we carry around the weight of those we don't forgive until it stinks. So the teacher says empty the sack. Student says but there always people against us, putting potatoes into our sack. Teachers says - tehn get rid of the sack. The sack represents that about us that carries insults around. Supposely, it's the start on the path to true forgiveness, or not feeling insulted in the first place.....
There's also a nice section on seeing others points of view and the pointlessness of arguing later on.....
and darn it if there's not a section disucssing J3Bs train analogy. Man, these proverbs are 4600 years old.....
Gentlemen really, thank you for reading through all these texts. It's been a long week.
