good afternoon girlfriend! just caught up on your sitch...sorry i have been away. My own sitch is CRAZY right now and you will have to make sure you have plenty of time to read what has/is happening to me crazy

Truth be told, I only care about you (ditto for you too I know)not your H. I don't think you are ready for him to move back in. You are expressing more anxiety than what is normal for you and I am worried about you.

Also, you keep saying X-OW. IMO she is not and X. if he is still talking to her and she is asking him to help her move because that is what a "boyfriend" does - she is NOT an X. She is the OW. You are taking him for his word that he is stringing her along, but that it is over...remember how many times you have told me actions speak louder than words? Take your own advice here. You are right to set up boundries. They are for your own protection and self preservation.

I too think he is making progress, but not being able to stay at the house all night is a problem, and if he doesn't have somewhere to go if he moves back in???? This could lead a complete breakdown for him.

Don't rush it is the only advice I can give.

Hang in there **hugs** smile


TAMF
m:41
xh:41
T: 20
M: 15
D: 16
D: 14
Bomb dropped: 7/3/10
separated: 7/15/10
H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11
divorced: 8/26/12