Being nice to a spouse that having an affair will get you nowhere fast. I'm not saying to be a jerk, but there is a saying about nice guys and where they finish.
The light bulb will go off one day and the LBS will finally "get it".
IMO; What the LBS gets confused is they start learning the WAS LL and try to implement the action. Appeasing the WAS LL after they left is just more pursuing. It actually has a reverse affect on them.
LL works when your in a healthy R.
Stay strong CS. She will continue to "test" you. And when she feels that all her efforts aren't being noticed, that's when she'll see you as someone different.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
