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To address some of the things in order:

Actually , the OM caters to her every whim and listens to everything she says. Thats how it all got started on facebook.
She actually told me that he also takes care of things in a timely fashion like the headlight of her van. I wasnt very good about things like that so, He is trying like crazy to be there for her. He has very low self esteem and grew up in a really bad family in this town. His dad was the town bum, literally eating out of dumpsters at times and collecting beer bottles and being passed out in ditches. Their family name is synonymous to the lowest of families in this town.

She told me that she was diagnosed with Bi-polar and then quickly told me that she wasnt. Almost like a bad SNL skit.
She said that she didnt want that getting around so she said that she wasnt. Trouble is , I dont know what the truth is. She may have been diagnosed but she may also be using that diagnoses as a crutch for her actions. IDK.

Her sister is 23 years older than her and was very close to their mother. She is actually take the death very hard and is using my W for support more than the other way around. Her sister, surprise surprise, is also very unstable mentally.
And yes, we all live very close to each other. My town has a population of 1500 people.

My kids are 11 and going to be 16. We text when it comes down to little things concerning the kids, like work schedule for her, hockey games etc...

Oldest son wants very little to do with her right now as he knows about her relationship with OM and her affair.
(He overheard the night I found out as I wasnt able to keep my voice down when I discovered it on her blackberry)

I guess thats about it. I know you are right about any thoughts of R.

It always boggles my mind how people can function in our society with such mental illness and seem normal for the most part.

Thanks again Sandi.

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